I think of the decision about what
we charge financially for a service as one of our boundary choices. Respecting
someone’s financial boundary is one of the first ways that as their customer I
can show someone I will respect every aspect of them. I cannot think of a time
when I have asked someone to lower their fee for a service. And I never feel
that just because I paid someone money, they owe me something or I can treat
them poorly.
Of course, there is some exchange
taking place, or I would not have paid them, and I do want to be treated well
as a customer. If I am not treated well, I will probably choose to not be a
customer of that person.
But even if I am paying someone for
a service, I want them to want to provide the service and not just because they
are receiving money.
On occasion I have done something
just for the money, like some day jobs, and it never feels good. I don’t want
to be on either side of that kind of an exchange.
What I say a lot is that life is
short. So having conscious intent and consent in every situation is a priority
to me. I want to consciously choose everything I do in my life and know that
people interacting with me are consciously choosing and wanting to interact
with me as well. It does not feel good to interact if either person in the
exchange does not truly want to participate. I believe this is true even if
money is exchanged.
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